As a parent, its our job to teach our children the power of positive thoughts. The above photo is nearly 5 years old. The images is my daughter and my self (37 weeks pregnant at the time) outdoors in a lovely field, taking our traditional birthday photos of Olivia. My sweet Olivia is very much like myself. Kind, strong, independent, smart, sensitive just to name a few. She is also very similar in the fact that we both share our own kinds of anxiety. Her's more child related then mine of course, but still very relative to a 7 year old. There have been times where Olivia doesn't want to be left at school, her thoughts tend to distort her and create worst case scenarios in her head, She often has troubles sleeping. Sometimes issues with digestion, and upset tummies. I know how hard anxiety can be as an adult, let alone how she must be feeling as a young kid. I do my best at all times, to help Olivia retrain her thoughts. I have her stop in her tracks of thought and regain control. I tell her how important it is to create positive thoughts, and with that the negative feelings should fade away. This often helps Olivia through her little moments of anxiousness,
It's certainly not fun watching your children struggle with such battles. As parents we try our hardest to avoid any sad or upsetting situations for our kids. Olivia was my first born, my baby. She will rise above this, just as we both have had to learn how to adjust to living with anxiety.
I look at the photo above, and the quote that I added fits perfectly together. Olivia is calm, happy, smiling, thinking positive thoughts (probably thinking shes getting everything on her wish list for her birthday) over all she's enjoying herself and her moment to shine. Moments like this its necessary to reflect upon. Not every day is going to be sunshine and roses, especially when raising children. However it is the most rewarding job to be the security your children need, and having them feel like everything is going to be alright. Funny thing is, in moments of my depression or anxiousness I often reach out to my children for a hug and a kiss because somehow they make me feel grounded again.
Along the way, I have sought counselling for Olivia because I feel that its always important to have someone outside of your family to talk with. She really enjoys her sessions, and is learning to talk more about whats bothering her and how to find solutions to work through them. My job after wards is to reassure Olivia that despite anxiety, you can choose to be chin up, smile and shine!
I encourage you to talk with your kids more about feelings. Olivia's worst case thoughts, took her so deep with concern that it really started to effect her every day life. Maybe your kids aren't comfortable talking (maybe their older) If this is the case, you can never go wrong setting up an appointment for a counselor to just "chat" with your kiddo. You'd be surprised the positive response you'll get from a kid who's really benefited from counselling.
Keeping up with positive thoughts, helps me remember myself that there is power in thoughts. Negativity can take over your mind quicker then you can say "I need help"
Practice steps to stop that in their tracks! Breathing, being silent, close your eyes for a moment and just find yourself briefly. Imagine the exact opposite to the negative. Imagine the positive that will go so much further then worry will ever take you. One thing I have always told Olivia (because I really had to teach myself this before I could help her) THERE'S NO SENSE IN WORRYING. WORRYING ISN'T GOING TO MAKE IT ANY BETTER! When you stop to think about it that way, I find it tends to make great sense really. Don't invest in worry. Don't consume your life with negativity.
Being Faith believing, I needed to reach out to God at many different times in my life. One time particularly when I thought I may loose my sight, I picked up my grandmother's bible, thats underlined and has been loved all over. I began to flip through the pages, when I stumbled upon (what looked like at the time) clarity! The very reason why I need FAITH to get through this. The scripture was found in Philippians chapter 4 vs 6-9
"Be careful for nothing, but in everything by PRAYER and supplication with THANKSGIVING make your requests be made known to GOD. And the PEACE of God which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts minds through Christ Jesus., Finally brethren (most important part)
Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, THINK ON THESE THINGS"
Need I say anymore! That scripture is powerful enough in itself. I really hope this blog post today find someone who was in need of direction, or maybe a sign that they need to reach out for some help. Someone to talk to. Let me say, I would be more then happy to chat with anyone if they ever needed someone to lean on. I've been there, I own the t-shirt. There's no fault in reaching out, especially when you KNOW you need/want to.
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Thank you for reading,